Pop culture has been in a tailspin since Beyonce announced that she’s having twins. After all, that’s a HUGE achievement of social and political significance, right? We-e-e-ellllll, I don’t want to step on any well-heeled toes, but people have been having twins since the dawn of day, so it’s not really World Record worthy, unfortunately…
I would know, because I – the Editing Queen – birthed twins into the royal family long before Queen Bey received her joyous news and of course, I was shattered, too; first by the news that I won’t be making the record books and achieve instant fame, and then by the bizarre ideas people have regarding having twins.
Hubby and I have had our fair share of giggles over the years, because people have weird ideas about having twins. It was again highlighted in recent talk shows that are abuzz about the Twin Fever that has hit Hollywood. In this post, I’m going to provide a preview for Bey and Amal Clooney into the realm they’re about to enter.
- Having Twins? You must’ve had BAD morning sickness! Is there such a thing as GOOD morning sickness? Yes, I did have pretty hectic morning sickness, but I’ve seen worse in mothers expecting one baby.
- Having Twins? Who else in your family has twins? You got me there. Nobody, as far as I know. Besides, according to Babyguide.com, there is no scientific evidence to suggest having twins runs in families.
- So how did you improve your chances of having twins? Can you actually do that? Actually, I wasn’t even trying to have one kid and just got lucky. I guess you could go for IVF and tell your fertility specialist you want twins…?
- How do you look so young if you had your twins naturally, since twins are more common in older women. Excuse me! It’s “more common”, not EXCLUSIVE! I’m plenty young, I don’t just look it. :/
- Why do you lie about having twins? One is a boy and one is a girl… Uhm, and your point being…? Ever hear of fraternal twins? That’s when two eggs are fertilized. Same-sex twins occur when one egg splits in two. Fraternal twins can be two boy eggs, two girl eggs or one of each is fertilized. It’s the same as having two normal siblings, except they just happen to be born on the same day…
- But they don’t even look the same! You’re right, they don’t look the same, but that’s not exactly a prerequisite.
- But aren’t they identical twins? No, because one has girl parts and one has boy parts. Nothing identical about that! Oh, and they are FRATERNAL TWINS – see point 5.
- Having twins must result in a horrific birthing experience. Actually, no. I just lay there while the doctors slashed my tummy and pulled out two little aliens…
- You must’ve got really fat by having twins… Nope. It’s the cake, chocolate and pizza that did that. I was actually super skinny after they were born.
- Everyone who’s having twins should be prepared that they will be born prematurely. No – not really. My kids were only born early (they were physically mature enough) because the doctor did not want to be called out during his Christmas / New Year break to deliver them.
- It must be HELL having twins… Two baths, two feeding times, two diapers, twice as little sleep… Actually, no. It’s bliss. You shove a nipple in each mouth and get on with your day. At bath time, you wash one while the other is in the crib. Then you do the other one. If you have help, it’s even easier. I’d say it’s much easier than having a 3-year old and a newborn by a long shot. And when they are big enough to sit up and feed themselves, it’s an absolute blast, as they are able to play with each other while the parents catch up on Netflix.
- How do you cope with no sleep for double the time? You don’t sleep when you have one baby and having two makes no difference. If one cries, he or she will wake the other one up – just as a 3-year old will wake a baby, or vice versa. The benefit with twins is that you can soothe both simultaneously. Or -if you’re lucky like me -, your son will be a patient, sleepy gent while his sister cries herself to sleep on your chest for the first six months.
- Double Trouble!!! No – double the LOVE.
- Having twins must be expensive. Actually, no. It’s a great time to prey on other people’s ignorance about twins, especially if you’re a famous celeb. People will give you so many gifts that they won’t cost you a dime.
- You should never dress twins alike, because they will lose their sense of identity. Oh PUHLEASE! *eye roll*. Having twins of opposite sexes means that there aren’t that many opportunities to dress them alike. Still, I took advantage whenever the opportunity did present itself. Since my princess did not have a lot of hair for her first two years, it was a bit of a struggle – I really had to do the pink for the girl and blue for the boy thing. Today, they are 15 and both could not be more individual if they tried. But you know what happens at least once a week? They unwittingly dress alike. And they often ask us to buy them the same hoodies or t-shirts.
- They must both be good at XYZ. No, not necessarily. While my kids are both good at many things, some being the same, they have very different skill sets and personalities.
One Perceived Myth About Having Twins That Is Actually a FACT
You’ve heard it – twins have a special bond. Everyone thinks this is a myth, but it’s actually the only truth about having twins.
Of course they fight. They are very different. They have different hobbies, interests, and friends. They are even raised very differently where rules are concerned. One is rebellious, impulsive, and outgoing. The other one is introverted and circumspect. Of course a rebellious child will have more restrictions. Likewise, a happy-go-lucky child will get over stumbling blocks much easier than a child on the fringes of the Asperger’s spectrum. Either way, both will be fiercely protected by parents who have patiently listened to all the myths about having twins.
I don’t know what the most special thing is about having twins, even after all these years. Is it waking up to their sweet faces? Is it the fact that they yearn to be together when one went somewhere without the other? Is it the fact that – no matter how much they fought – they are still each other’s first priority? Is it the fact that they truly want what’s best for their sibling? Is it how they look for excuses to have twinsy-sleepovers? Or is it the way they will defend each other no matter what?
I guess it’s just all of it. Yes, having twins may not be an “achievement” per se. It’s something that we can’t plan with accuracy (IVF aside), because there is no recipe. But having twins is a gift unlike any other. And it’s a gift that keeps on giving.